Moving past first impressions.

When people look at me what to they see?

A woman who is rather overweight?

What they don’t see is a woman with a chronic debilitating pain condition which makes it near impossible for her to exercise. Also do they see a lady on pain medication that increases weight gain.

No !

Because on first glance that information isn’t there.

The way I look doesn’t tell you my story.

How often do we make judgements on those first impressions?

Yet those first moments can only tell us so much. The information we learn is limited in both depth and perception.

Ok i will accept in certain situations first impressions count, job interviews for a start. I mean you wouldn’t turn up to a business job in jeans and T-shirt. But let’s be honest a suit and tie doesn’t guarantee that you are capable of doing the job.

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So many times people make judgements on those first impressions, I know I have. Yet some of the worlds greatest minds or biggest hearts have been eccentric and misunderstood.

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Also someone of the worlds evilest people have been described as clean cut and homely.

The outside doesn’t always reflect what is within.

With the art of conversation being whittled down to 140 characters I think we need to take the time to get a closer look.

To take the time to really get to know someone by real conversations not just reading their Facebook updates.

Time and patience could bring you great rewards.

Maybe it’s time to meet for that coffee, to share a meal or maybe just an email
or two.

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But in a world that’s becoming more superficial everyday i believe we need search out the genuine, to find the true.

I think we owe it to ourselves and each other.

Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.

Anais Nin

Feeling sick and needing help

Every time I see a magazine with models on the covers looking perfect, or enter a shop full of beautiful clothes I actually feel sick.

My body shape has changed so much in the last few years due to children, illness etc that I hate trying on clothes. I have just come to accept that if I see a top, dress I like you can guarantee it won’t be in my size.

The thing is I have kind of accepted the body I have, I don’t like it but unless a cure can be found for my illness I’m not going to be running any marathons anytime soon. My weight is also not helped by the medication which is great for pain but lousy for weight loss.

It’s been a weird road for me, I was a dancer in my younger years and finding clothes to fit was never a problem the tighter the better.

Move on 16 years it’s a case of the bagger the better and as for my style I really give up. I still like the rockabilly look but maybe a little smart too. Let’s be honest I haven’t a clue, I need help.

When the kids were younger I didn’t really stress to much, my wardrobe pretty much consisted of jeans and black T-shirt’s with the odd blouse for smarter occasions.

But recently I have found myself attending more meetings, conferences and workshops and have been feeling undressed and to be honest a bit of a scruff.

Now with Brit mums coming up I am actually really stressed and feel really sick.

The email for the brilliance in blogging finalists reminding us to wear what we are happy to have our photo took in has send me into a spiral of self doubt, fear and pretty much self loathing.

I’m trying to find the confidence to go shopping in hope of the perfect conference outfit. You know one that will look great on the photos but not be to overdressed for the workshops and will also not look out of place at the party in the evening. Yes I know I’m asking a lot.

So far I’ve only managed to look online and there is some beautiful plus size clothes out there, but will they suit me and my personality.

I know as we get older our bodies change and its part of life but I do think that changing styles also happens as we age. Not many of us would wear the same outfit at 36 that we wore at 18.

I guess I have to just work out what style suits this body and this 36 year olds personally.

This could take a while!

Anyone got any ideas?