As always here on the internet we come across and connect with some amazing, inspiring people but also some truly awful trolls that need to return under the bridge they came from.
These last months I’ve been very open in my grief, transparent and vulnerable, to be honest the only way I know how to be. Yet in my vulnerability I have come across a few that just don’t or choose not to get it. They seem to find it acceptable that Daniel died of Covid because he had complex needs. He is one of the few they believe are “acceptable losses”. One going as far to say he was going to die anyway, I mean how dare they ! There is nothing ok with Daniel’s death, there is definitely nothing acceptable about him catching Covid through the ignorance of others. His death is not validated by the percentages. His death is heartbreaking devastating and I and many others miss him desperately.
Disability does not mean less and in a world that supposed to be one of progression this archaic belief is shocking and one that’s so ignorant.
What if those who have trolled me these last few weeks take a drive out and end up in an accident and find themselves disabled, do they at this point become less? Would it be then acceptable for them to lose their lives to covid? Of course not, their value doesn’t change by the ability of their bodies.
Yet I wish that these beliefs were only those of the under bridge ugly society but the reality is there are not. Disability is still seen in a negative way, a less way. Parents fighting for their children to get the same opportunities as their peers, equal opportunities in career development and growth. Support, care systems all so lacking and don’t get me started on the fact that equipment and aids that would make a difference to a persons life are classed as not needed, beyond the basic requirements or my favourite (not) out of budget. We live in a country where is ok for us to fund the second home of our politicians yet we have people unable to leave their houses due to a much needed ramp being beyond budget for this year. Human beings being left in pain using ill fitted or outgrown equipment being told of a two year waiting list. Yes disability is seen as less, people with disabilities are not valued as they should be.
Equality feels like a myth.
So I guess I shouldn’t be surprised that some keyboard menace decided to break my heart with their apathy. How they could chose to say the death of a seven year old beautiful boy was acceptable.
Still what scares me more is this belief that Covid only kills the vulnerable, those with underlying conditions. The numbers show different, the lives lost show different, marathon runners, sportsman, dancers, armed forces personnel all have lost their lives to the evil of Covid. Until this recognition hits home and people understand that Covid isn’t discriminative, it doesn’t care who it kills the number will continue to rise and hearts will continue to be broken.
As for my heart well pieces of it are in heaven waiting for me. Until then I will continue to advocate and campaign for a world where people are valued equally. Where disability is seen as difference ( I mean who wants to be the same ) but not a burden, not less. As for the trolls I know they won’t ever disappear as the world is full of bitter ignorant people but I can choose to hold on to the fact that I am so blessed, so incredibly lucky that I get to call Daniel my son. I will always miss him desperately because he did and does matter.