How do you find the right words to describe twenty years of marriage? I could go with the old adages “I would have got less for murder” or you are “my old ball and chain”.
Yet none of these are right.
I’m simply going to say
“You gave me wings and encouraged me to fly”.
Now it may not be politically correct or of a feminist nature to say my husband completes me or that I finally found myself with you, but this is the truth. Before I met you I just didn’t know who I was. My identity was formed by the opinions of others of who they wanted me to be or what suited them. You came along and just let me be and you loved me for me, eccentricity and all. Never did you laugh at my wild ideas or my crazy plans you just stood by my side and said let’s try it.
You have be my core, when I have felt weak and lost you have been my strength and my direction.
When we lost Olivia I wasn’t sure I could carry on but slowly even in the midst of your own pain you held me close reminding me daily that life has so much left to give and that we still had a journey to make.
You make me laugh so often, sometimes even when you don’t mean to and to be honest those times are often the funniest (sorry).
You love on your children with such tenderness that watching you hold our new son in your arms makes me fall in love with you all over again.
Let’s be honest though you are annoying at times, singing out of time with the songs on the radio, keeping me awake with your snoring or leaving your socks on the floor. Still I guess I would be walking a dangerous road if we were to compare tidiness as I am far from the neatest.
I actually cannot believe we have been married for twenty years. In fact I have now spend more than half of my lifetime with you. Yet it still feels so short, we have so many plans and memories still to make. Children to raise, daughters to marry off (ha ha) sons to care for.
You are simply amazing and I know you know how much I love you but I do wonder if you know how much I admire you.
I often get asked how I do what I do, my answer is simple “because of you”. Alan you are my strength, I know I can go out into the world and try things knowing that whatever the outcome if I fail or if succeed you will be there waiting for me.
I watched your face as I graduated last week your smile spoke volumes. You were so proud of me as I collected my degree but I couldn’t have done it without you. Endless cups of tea, having the children whilst I study. You were my support system and my room service all in one.
Happy anniversary dear husband, thank you for loving my unconditionally. For caring for me, for not strangling me at times.
I love you today, tomorrow and forever and whatever the future holds let’s laugh hard, cry hard and just embrace life together.
Love you moon, stars and back again
Your darling, wonderful, beautiful wife (writers privilege)