Grief

I am beginning to wonder if someone within five-minute Friday is reading my heart as the word choices over the last few weeks have cut close. At first, I feel shocked but then wonder if God is reminding me that hiding is not an option and that it’s also not healthy. How can we process emotions when we don’t acknowledge them? Yet ‘grief ‘I am not sure if this is an emotion that can be processed ,its definitely not one that we can work through, well its one I haven’t personally worked through and the end well I’ve come to the conclusion that the end of grief is heaven. 

November is one of the hardest months for me and this year has been no different, I have to face the anniversary of my daughter’s death but also this year has brought so much pain my heart aches just thinking about it. 

Yet I know grief isn’t just synonymous with death.

noun

keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret.

a cause or occasion of keen distress or sorrow.

Right now, the world is lost in grief, many of us cannot see past the what should have been’s, the normal, the plans being cancelled, people we cannot visit and I know it’s hard. As one who has faced a lot of what should have beens’s I get it. I did not expect my child to be born with a severe neurological condition, I didn’t expect to not be able to travel due to illness, to spend birthdays and new year’s in hospital.

I did not expect to lose her.  

I have faced so many of what should have been’s. 

It’s hard. 

Yet sometimes “what is” can be rather special, 

No, I did not ever imagine having a child with a devastating condition, it never crossed my mind at any point. Yet she was one of the best things that life has ever blessed me with. I learned through her that life was to be lived for the moment that the reality is we are never promised a long duration, so we need to live in the present. We need to focus on the here and now and celebrate the moments. 

Expectations can be exciting, but they can also bring restriction. Sometimes we have to let go of what should be and celebrate the what is. 

Grief is hard and for me there is no earthly end, but I will never lose sight of the gift. 


“Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”


― Jamie Anderson

If you are grieving now hold on to the why. The wonderful people you miss desperately but love so hard. 

Focusing on the blessings isn’t easy and grief sometimes become a curtain which hides the gifts from us. But try, try in this season to tear back the curtain and celebrate the moments that made the memories and appreciate the memories yet to be made. 

8 thoughts on “Grief

  1. Wow, this is so beautiful! I am so sorry for your loss, but I do understand that your daughter was one of the biggest blessings of your life. You also make a good point by saying the end of grief is Heaven. Thanks so much! FMF #24

    Like

  2. So sorry for your loss and grief. So personal yet speaks to all of us. Yes love lives in grief. But God, carries our hearts and holds us close. We may fall. may flail. But never fall. completely,
    you spoke my heart.

    Like

  3. Well, damn. This post broke my heart.

    You did not expect to lose her,
    you did not think she’d die,
    but the tears you cried could not defer
    that awful question, “Why?”
    Can you hear us wailing, Lord,
    down here, in depth of night?
    Will you not please point us toward
    some healing ray of light?
    What now of all Your promises
    when faced, with this, our pain?
    Are we now Doubting Thomases?
    Is alll our faith in vain?
    And then, gentle as You can be:
    “Come help Me walk to Calvary.”

    Liked by 1 person

  4. I too, like others am sorry for your loss. You make many great points, such as grief can hide the blessings and gifts. You are right that only in Heaven will we break free from grief. Thank you for your honesty and heartfelt post. Visiting from FMF #26

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s