No means no

It’s not new for me to find myself p*ssed off at some tripe spoken by someone in the public eye.

Be it the fat hating Katie bitch Hopkins or the disability hating spew of Ian Duncan Smith . You can guarantee that someone will annoy me I am rather passionate that way.

But to be fair I do believe in the freedom of speech and I accept that even idiots get voice boxes, but when singer Chrissie Hynde suggested it can be a woman’s fault that they are raped I have to shout out, what the hell.

Seriously in this century and in this society we shouldn’t have to face such ignorance as this. 

Women have the right to wear whatever they wish without the fear of rape.

Also this isn’t just a women’s perspective I have spoken to many men that feel this way. Men who hate to be portrayed as creatures than cannot control themselves when faced with a mini skirt and high heels.

“Lucy Hastings, director of Victim Support, said: “Victims of sexual violence should never feel or be made to feel that they were responsible for the appalling crime they suffered – regardless of circumstances or factors which may have made them particularly vulnerable.

“They should not blame themselves or be blamed for failing to prevent an attack – often they will have been targeted by predatory offenders who are responsible for their actions.”

Chrissie Hynde seriously, you state that you feel responsible for the sexual assault you suffered. 

No and No

The only person responsible for sexual assault is the one doing the assaulting.

I don’t care if a woman walks around in underwear or naked this does not in any way make them less of a victim.

No means no.

I wouldn’t mind if the statistics actually matched up with this theory but they don’t. Sexual assault happens to all, polo necks or G-Strings. 

It happens in marriages, workplaces and it also happens to men as well. 

Over 90% of rape victims know their perpetrator.

I’m sorry Chrissie Hyde but my respect for you has just left the building. Comments like yours lead woman rights back in to the dark ages.

Would you ever say to a male rape victim he is to blame because his jeans were too tight? 

I am furious right now and I am appalled that all those who have suffered such assaults have to deal with ignorant comments like this.

I respect woman and I respect the rights of woman to wear whatever they want, when they want. 

A tight miniskirt isn’t an invitation to be raped.

High heels, crop tops don’t say yes please.

Sex should always be consenting if it isn’t it’s assault.

It doesn’t make any difference what you are wearing or what you aren’t.  

No means no. 

If you are a victim of a sexual assault please speak to someone who can help and support you.

    

http://rapecrisis.org.uk

  

https://www.victimsupport.org.uk

4 thoughts on “No means no

  1. You are so right, I am absolutely fuming over her comments.
    How does anyone think that way in this day and age? I just don’t understand it? Women get raped in all attire, it has NOTHING to do with clothing.
    I like the quote along the lines of “Thinking rape is about sex is like thinking hitting someone over the head with a spade is like gardening; it is about power.” That’s not the exact quote but it’s the gist, and it’s true, rape is about power, it is not (imo) to do with men (or women) not being able to control themselves, but wanting to have power over someone else.

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