When people look at me what to they see?

A woman who is rather overweight?

What they don’t see is a woman with a chronic debilitating pain condition which makes it near impossible for her to exercise. Also do they see a lady on pain medication that increases weight gain.

No !

Because on first glance that information isn’t there.

The way I look doesn’t tell you my story.

How often do we make judgements on those first impressions?

Yet those first moments can only tell us so much. The information we learn is limited in both depth and perception.

Ok i will accept in certain situations first impressions count, job interviews for a start. I mean you wouldn’t turn up to a business job in jeans and T-shirt. But let’s be honest a suit and tie doesn’t guarantee that you are capable of doing the job.

So many times people make judgements on those first impressions, I know I have. Yet some of the worlds greatest minds or biggest hearts have been eccentric and misunderstood.

Also someone of the worlds evilest people have been described as clean cut and homely.

The outside doesn’t always reflect what is within.

With the art of conversation being whittled down to 140 characters I think we need to take the time to get a closer look.

To take the time to really get to know someone by real conversations not just reading their Facebook updates.

Time and patience could bring you great rewards.

Maybe it’s time to meet for that coffee, to share a meal or maybe just an email
or two.

But in a world that’s becoming more superficial everyday i believe we need search out the genuine, to find the true.

I think we owe it to ourselves and each other.

Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.

Anais Nin